That is so not fair.
That is *so* not fair.

I actually heard that twice this morning from co-workers.

It didn’t relate to finances at all — it was a desk relocation type of thing and a vacation request.

Anyway, touching on yesterday’s post, well, “it” is fair. It’s totally fair.

Over the past few months, just by observing other people, it has become a lot more obvious to me that life is pretty much fair.

Most people just don’t seem to get it. They’re on cruise control in life and think that it’s unfair when things don’t just fall in their lap.

What they don’t seem to get, and this is my list so your’s may vary, is that life requires:

  1. That you never stop learning and growing.
  2. That you DECIDE what you want, with precision. You can’t be vague. I want to be rich or I want a sports car doesn’t cut it.
  3. That you set goals.
  4. That you focus upon what you want, visit your goals often, and track your progress.
  5. Think and act in accordance with the above, weighing even the smallest decisions against how they help you learn, grow, and/or get what you want.

These are EXTREMELY powerful requirements — and here’s the catch: you can’t miss a single one… For me anyway.

Too many people want to float through life and have good things fall out of the sky upon them.

It doesn’t work that way.

It never worked that way.

People get ahead by trying to get ahead. By working to get ahead.

I challenge one co-worker, who’s thrown in the towel and stopped their 401k contributions entirely, all the time to try this for just 30 days and tell me they haven’t made progress towards building a better life.

Do it for a year and you won’t be the same person — your habits will totally change. You’ll be happier.

Do it for five years and you’ll be destined to realize most of your dreams. Guaranteed.

I know I’m on that road myself.

But they just don’t get it. To them, it’s unfair.


  1. I am not sure I agree that life is fair. Things like cancer, being born into poverty, not getting the raise you deserve, are all examples of unfair things. With that said, I don’t think it changes the list. I would also add to my list a biggy. You get to control how you act and respond to the the situations, rather than let situation control you.

  2. True, there will always be exceptions to every rule. You’re right about that one. I guess I was pigeonholing myself and looking at it in a financial standing sort of way.

    I’m not sure I agree with the raise thing though — that’s something I see all around me.

    You know, the fellow employees you see come in and BS their way up the ladder, but to this day, I have yet to see one actually last very long.

    It always seems to come back around and they’re eventually back on unemployment or working retail or something while I put my head down and work through it and make my way up the ladder the real way.

    It’s a karma thing, I think. I used to get so jealous when I’d see people pass me on the ladder — people I didn’t think were deserving. But now it barely phases me.

    I see it as an even better chance to prove my worth because, sooner or later, the people that fake it ’til they make it are exposed and that’s when the rest of us move up a rung. That’s justice. 😉

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